There
are several Check-up Q's that you may utilize to assess your romantic
relationship. Keeping a check and balance system of the direction it
appears to be taking, you may ask yourself and your mate the following
questions:
1)
How do you feel when your significant other leaves for work or an
activity?
a.
Relieved [Critical Q] This is indicative that many troubles are
plaguing your relationship. You are either bored or something is
annoying you
b.
You miss them and think about them constantly, wondering where
they are and what they are doing [Critical Q] This indicates an
unhealthy obsessive nature, or may indicate a serious jealously problem
in the relationship.
c.
You miss them but go about your business as usual [Healthy Q]
This reaction should tell you that you miss your partner in a healthy
loving manner
2)
Do you trust your partner?
a.
You find yourself snooping through your partner's personal
things, like a purse or wallet [Critical Q]
b.
You monitor your partner's phone calls, the Caller ID, or
answering machine [Critical Q]
c.
You check up on them frequently to find out if they actually are
where they said they would be [Critical Q]
d.
You feel confident and comfortable when the phone rings or your
partner goes somewhere [Healthy Q]
3)
Do you feel like your partner pulls his / her weight financially?
a.
You often have many arguments concerning the bills and how they
are to be paid [Critical Q]
b.
You feel guilty because your partner pays the lion's share of the
bills [Critical Q]
c.
You feel content with your finances and never argue about bills,
taxes, or purchases [Healthy Q]
4)
Do you feel like your significant other helps enough around the house,
or with tasks outside of work related areas?
a.
You find yourself constantly nagging your partner for help around
the house with everyday chores [Critical Q]
b.
You go ahead and do everything so as not to anger your partner or
"rock the boat" [Critical Q]
c.
You go on strike and refuse to do anything around the house until
they do [Critical Q]
d.
You feel like each person does their fair share of the extra
duties and you never argue about such things [Healthy Q]
5)
Is your sex live balanced and satisfying?
a.
You feel deprived of sexual intimacy most of the time [Critical
Q]
b.
You feel like your partner only thinks of sex and nothing more
[Critical Q]
c.
You enjoy sex regularly but think of it as a duty [Critical Q]
d.
You and your partner have a balanced libido and make love
unconditionally, free of attachments [Healthy Q]
6)
Do you and your partner compliment each other and send each other
Motivational Q's?
a.
Never [Critical Q]
b.
Occasionally [Critical Q]
c.
Daily [Healthy Q]
7)
How do you greet your partner when you have been apart?
a.
You keep busy doing what ever you are doing and don't take much
notice [Critical Q]
b.
You rush to the door and grill them about where they have been
[Critical Q]
c.
You greet them at the door if possible with a kiss and enquire
about their day [Healthy Q]
8)
When you and your partner have a difference of opinion, do one or the
other of you:
a.
Hold in your feelings, and hope the incident will pass (not rock
the boat)? [Critical Q]
b.
Become extremely agitated and angry elevating the problem to a
major catastrophe? [Critical Q]
c.
Have clear and concise discussions about the issue, listening
calmly to each others' opinions? [Healthy Q]
9)
How do you and your significant other find solutions to your problems?
a.
You give in, and accept whatever they decide to do [Critical Q]
b.
They give in and usually see it your way [Critical Q]
c.
You mutually decide a balanced and fair course of action and
follow through with the solution [Healthy Q]
10)
How do you feel about your current relationship in general?
a.
I feel sad and concerned about where our relationship is headed
most of time
b.
I feel apathetic about my relationship, but it is somewhat
comfortable and convenient for the both of us
c.
We mutually amplify each other and feel positive and upbeat most
of the time
If
you answered any of these ten questions with a Critical Q response,
these are areas which need to be addressed and immediately resolved